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Louise Hay III: Start Your Own Love Story

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Start Your Own Love Story

Dear Susan,

At 88 years of age, I can say that health and happiness are the most important tenets of my life. Many of you who have read my books know that I did not have an easy childhood, nor any of the advantages of money or education for much of my life.

Then I discovered the one thing that changed the course of my health and my life: the belief that every thought we think is creating our future. This one little idea shifted the direction of my life. I found that if I could create peace, health, and harmony in my mind, I could create the same in my body and in my world.

This book is not about the latest trend or fad. It’s about how to craft a life that will nourish and support you. It’s about all the ways you can love yourself more. It’s about ancient healing wisdom that will work with your busy schedule. And it’s about learning that you matter. Somewhere in all the stress, noise, and to-do lists, there is still space for you.

This book is a love story. It’s about loving yourself as a way to create health, happiness, and longevity. Yes, you will learn tips, menus, recipes, affirmations, and exercises that have worked to keep me healthy, vibrant, and strong throughout my life. But more than that, your heart will be opened to new ways to love and support yourself on this incredible journey.

Over the years, I have taught ways to eliminate the negative thoughts in your mind and to replace them with positive affirmations. To practice forgiveness and to dissolve resentment. To learn to really love who you are. To do mirror work. Those of you who have followed these lessons have seen your lives turn around for the better. Now it is time for the next step.

I have had so many of you say to me, “You look so young and vibrant.” Or, “I want to be healthy like you when I get older.” In this book, I will be sharing exactly what I do. For me, this is the next step in changing your thoughts. It’s changing your way of life to one that focuses on nourishing and treating your body with love.

I have always loved learning new things, and I believe that every hand that touches me is a healing hand. In this way, I have found many wonderful people doing extremely good work, and I often like to share what I’ve learned from them with the rest of the world. In this book, I am introducing two people who have transformed my life: Ahlea Khadro and Heather Dane. I would like them to transform yours as well, if you are willing.

As I look back and think about why I feel so good at age 88, I truly believe it’s because of the way I live. My thoughts from morning until I go to sleep at night are mostly a stream of positive affirmations. I firmly believe that Life loves me and everything I need comes to me at the right time. I also believe that I am a big, strong, healthy girl! Then I leave it to Life to bring my thoughts into manifestation so that this comes true for me.

When you expand your thinking and beliefs, your love flows freely. When you contract, you shut yourself off. Can you remember the last time when you were in love? Your heart went ahh! It was such a wonderful feeling. It is the same with loving yourself, except that you will never leave once you have that love. It’s with you for the rest of your life, so you want to make it the best relationship that you can have.

7 Steps to Eat, Think, and Love Your Way to Great Health

Now, it’s time to begin your love story. In Loving Yourself to Great Health, Louise, Ahlea, and Heather share seven steps to eat, think and love your way to great health and a great life:

Step #1: Create a New Perspective on Health
Discover why symptoms, illness, and dis-ease occur and how to create a whole new perspective on your ability to create health, happiness, and longevity.

Step #2: Love Yourself and Your Body – Food, Weight Loss, Dis-ease, and More
The truth about food, weight loss, and dis-ease, and the loving steps you can take to heal your body and mind.

Step #3: Know How Your Body Really Works – The Foundation for Health
Learn how your digestive system works and how your body was perfectly designed to support your wellness.

Step #4: Listen to Your Body – A Powerful, Yet Little Known Health Secret
Find out how to listen to your body, so you can allow inner guidance to take the lead if decisions about your health, wellness, and nutrition become confusing.

Step #5: Emphasize Food and Thoughts that Heal Your Body and Mind
Learn the foods to eat and avoid for your best health.

Step #6: Empower Your Health – Home Remedies for What Ails You
Discover fun, natural remedies to dissolve symptoms and promote good health.

Step #7: The Road Map for Your Best Health
A plan for taking action at your own pace.

In addition to these 7 steps, you’ll find a simple health assessment, informative charts, exercises to foster a healthy balanced relationship with your body, beautiful affirmations and meditations, a five day meal plan, and endless tasty and nutritious recipes.



How to Listen to Your Body and Inner Voice

Listening to your inner guidance and acting on it is the way to health and happiness.
I listen with love to my body’s messages.

The most beautiful thing about your body is that it has a deep knowing about what you truly need for health and happiness. Here are some great ways to begin listening to what your body has to say:

Focus on being present and aware. 
Pay attention to what is happening in the moment and drop any thoughts about the past or the future. The more you’re aware of this moment, the easier it is to tap into how you are feeling. Think of it as taking a moment to put your radar up and scan the environment, noticing exactly what is happening, and then noticing how you are feeling. This is the best way to develop your intuition. And there’s a bonus: being in the present moment reduces the stress of mind chatter and worry about the past or the future while you’re doing something else in this moment.

Develop a relationship with yourself.
Think about going on a first date. Sometimes thinking of this process as a first date is helpful because if you don’t yet have rapport with yourself, it can take time to get comfortable and get to know how your body responds as you communicate with it. By the second or third “date,” you’ll feel more comfortable.

Get quiet and still.
Set aside some time in your day so that you can get quiet and still. Choose a space where you won’t be disturbed for a period of time. You can use this time in any way that supports you.

Tune in to your body during the day.
For example, on your commute to work; in a meeting; as you’re making a decision; when you’re with friends, family, or pets; or as you plan your schedule. Tune in to your body to see how you feel during these activities. Look for signals that may be telling you what is right or not right for you. Be willing to take more time for a decision if you aren’t feeling right about it and want to sit quietly to learn more. Tuning in to your body allows you to get very present and aware in the situation, which can heighten your intuition.

Keep an open, judgment-free mind.
Because everyone’s intuition works in different ways, it’s crucial that you stay open and avoid judging the signals that you get. It’s best not to judge the importance of a signal, whether it’s big or small, clear or vague, or the way it shows up. Stay open and curious as you learn the language of your inner wisdom.

Keep a journal.
Have fun with this! Write down what you learn about yourself and document the language of your inner voice. With time and practice, this language or the signals you get may change, and journaling can help you pay attention to how things progress. It can also help you to remove doubt by focusing on the successes you have with your intuition, particularly as time goes by.

Start small and build.
Start listening to your inner guidance in ways that feel easy for you.

Practice, practice, practice.
The more you tune in to your inner guidance and the more you follow it, the easier it is to understand how your body and life speak to you. The signals tend to get clearer and it becomes easier to trust your inner guidance. This practice goes a long way in trusting Life.

The more you listen to your inner voice, the more you can give yourself the love, kindness, and understanding that only you know you need. And the more your needs are met, the more you begin to trust life. This whole process starts with you loving yourself enough to listen. And then loving yourself even more by taking action on what you feel guided to do. Knowing that you have this inner guidance system that you can trust makes it easier to remember that you are loved, protected, and watched over by Life.



The proper meaning of this phrase is: of the clock, and pertains to telling time on an analog device with a face.

Sherlock Holmes uses the phrase to mock Watson. “I say, Watson, what o’clock is it?”

It’s also used to place oneself or others in space. “Check it out at 2 o’clock,” means that one would look to one’s right and a little forward.

It seems a right proper, old-fashioned expression and I like it for that reason alone. Not everything is, or can be, digital!

Maybe that’s why I liked Mary Englebreit’s lithograph that declares, “It’s CAKE o’clock!”

That made me think: What other o’clocks might there be?

Seeds XVI, 39

Louise Hay’s Loving Yourself to Great Health II

Louise HayI know I touted Louise Hays’ new book last week, (the picture above was taken to celebrate her 85th birthday!) but she sent me another newsletter (copy below) and the ideas are so good, I had to share them.


8 Tips to Start Loving Yourself to Great Health

by Louise Hay, Ahlea Khadro and Heather Dane

“I am willing to change.” — Louise Hay

Mirrors reflect back to us our feelings about ourselves. They clearly show us the areas to be changed if we want to create a loving, fulfilling life. The most powerful way to do your affirmations is to look in the mirror and say them out loud.

When people from all over the world who have followed Louise’s work were asked about their success with affirmations and mirror work, hundreds of them responded. They reported so many positive changes in their health, such as losing up to 100 pounds, dissolving autoimmune disease, overcoming addiction and eating disorders, eliminating pain, relieving stress and post-traumatic stress disorder, overcoming anxiety and insomnia, and much more. It’s amazing what can happen when you are kind and loving to yourself!

While you read our new book Loving Yourself to Great Health, we suggest that you have a mirror close by so that you can use it for all of the affirmations in this book. Doing your affirmations in the mirror will allow you to look into your own eyes and notice if you are seeing resistance or love.

Let’s start with an important affirmation. Look in the mirror and say to yourself: I am willing to change.

Notice how you feel. Do you feel any resistance to change? Do you feel as if you can change? Do you even want to? Noticing how you feel about change is important, because when you’re looking at self-growth, your willingness to change can make or break your own success.

If you feel resistant, you’re not alone. Heather used to work as a change management expert, and part of her job was to understand such resistance—why it happens and how to support people through times of transition. Even when helpful, positive changes were introduced in companies, they could fail based on whether people embraced the change or not.

If we let fear stop us from changing, we lose out on the opportunity to see how powerful we really are and how Life really loves us and is there for us!

Here are some wonderful tips that you can do starting today on your journey to loving yourself to great health:

8 Tips to Start Loving Yourself to Great Health

1. Decide you are important enough. Louise always teaches that once you try something and you see that it worked out for you, it makes change easier because it gives you permission to do it again. The thing is, you have to give yourself permission to try it in the first place. You have to feel you are important enough to give yourself that permission, to give yourself the space to change, to prioritize it in your life, and to support yourself in being successful with the rest of these tips! Sometimes the best way to change is to just do it, just take that first step of knowing that your health and happiness are important. You are important.

2. Take baby steps. Pick one small thing to do—it can be as quick and easy as you like, but do pick one thing and get started. For example, kiss your hand and say, “You are worth healing.” You can just do that for as long as you like and then move on whenever you’re ready. Remember the lesson from the tortoise and the hare: slow and steady wins the race.

3. Keep it simple and gentle. The gentler you are with yourself, the better. This is not a “no pain, no gain” approach. Part of loving yourself is keeping things easy and being kind to yourself. Think about how it feels to be gentle to yourself. Remember how afraid the kidneys often are, remember your inner child, and be gentle. Here’s an example of something gentle you can say to yourself: “You are safe with me.”

4. Be consistent. Keep in mind that the more you do your mirror work and practice your affirmations, the easier it will get. The more consistent you are, the more results you will experience. Think about the idea of practice—with any new skill, you do not start out an expert. The more you practice, the better you get!

5. Get helpers. One great way to build connection and to make change is to create a support system. This could be a friend, spouse, coach, family member, or whomever you feel comfortable with. Some people find or create online support groups or Facebook groups. In any event, it really helps to find a like-minded person or group to support you in doing your affirmations and sharing any roadblocks and wins you have along the way.

6. Have fun! Make the process fun in whatever way you can. Laugh at yourself; be silly. Louise walks by a mirror and says, “Hi, kid, you look great today!” It doesn’t matter who’s around and, inevitably, it makes everyone smile and love her even more. Ahlea winks at herself when she passes the mirror. Heather throws her arms up in the air and jumps around after her affirmations. One of the greatest things about Louise and Ahlea’s health and bodywork sessions together is that they laugh all the time. They are doing serious work, yet it’s also fun. Remember, change and healing can be joyous!

7. Celebrate even small successes. As you start to change, give yourself credit for starting! You don’t have to wait for major changes to celebrate; you can highlight the little successes you have along the way. Choose rewards that are meaningful to you, yet they can be as simple as giving yourself lots of hugs and kisses. Small children know the healing power of getting kisses from their mothers to make a “boo-boo” feel better. Kisses and hugs have great healing power, especially when you give them to yourself. It might feel silly at first, but it’s a beautiful way to be sweet to yourself.

8. Think positive. Psychologists understand what Louise has been teaching for decades: Change is easier when it’s based on positive thinking, rather than guilt, shame, or fear.

Think positive. Psychologists understand what Louise has been teaching for decades: Change is easier when it’s based on positive thinking, rather than guilt, shame, or fear.