Anniversaries, Unniversaries, & Cellular Memory
This past Saturday was the fifteenth anniversary of my mother’s death. It was significant for me because I miss her, and there are things going on in my life now that I wish she were here to see. Oh, I know she sees far better from where she is, but I’d still like to be able to call her up and chat about life’s goings-on.
Our seventh wedding anniversary is Wednesday, and since we decided that our marriage wasn’t working for us a year ago and spent this past year working on growing up ourselves, and ferreting out, acknowledging and owning our assumptions, we decided we’d celebrate an unniversary, which is, I guess, an anniversary of what we’re leaving behind.
The thing about these sorts of milestones is that whether we want to or not our bodies retain cellular memories of those events.
I remember when the hospital called me when Mama died. I knew she was dead even though the hospital didn’t say so. All the way to the hospital, driving in rush hour traffic, I said aloud to my mother’s spirit, “Go to Daddy, Mama. Go dance with Daddy.” At that point he’d been dead for thirty-five years, and despite that, I knew she’d recognize his energy signature on the other side better than any other.
I remember the cold snap in the air when Sheriden and I got married in front of two dear friends and a priest we know on the porch of our home in Boston. We’d been in a hurry to get it done because there was so much else going on. That ceremony crashed us into ourselves and we’ve spent the last seven years figuring out how to find our way back to ourselves and out of our assumptions based on our parents’ marriages.
Cellular memory is a good thing and a not-so-good thing. It’s great that we have cellular memory for things we do rarely, or for things we want always to be able to do. Someone who hasn’t ridden a bike for years can get on one any day and ride. That’s because her cells remember how to do it. Someone who hasn’t knitted in forever can pick up needles and remember how to do it. Cellular memory works with intuition as well. You can conjure up what it feels like to get an intuitive hit.
Cellular memory is also what keeps disease or injury patterns in place for us, and what cures cellular memories? Energy medicine: acupuncture, homeopathy, Chinese herbs, energy work, Reiki, osteopathy. Medicine that moves memory moves cells is a good rubric.
The next time you feel stuck in a pattern of any kind, try energy medicine. It works for me every time.