I quote the Nazarene Rabbi all the time. He said, “But let your communication be yea, yea; nay, nay ….” It’s from The Gospel According to St. Matthew 5:37 for inquiring minds who want to know.
Saturday’s quote from Abraham-Hicks: “When you say ‘Yes’ to something, you include something you do want in your experience. When you say ‘No’ to something, you include something you don’t want in your experience.”
Monday’s Google quote from Aldous Huxley decided me. [To be disclosed shortly.]
Yes, of course, we all strive to be clear in our communication with one another. That’s a given. But what happens when we’re not clear in ourselves? Certainly then our communication isn’t clear either. Not just isn’t, but really, can’t be clear—because we’re not clear.
What do we do then?
Well, the first thing is to remember Monday’s Google quote by Aldous Huxley:
“All that happens means something; nothing you do is ever insignificant.”
This is true. Everything means something. The artistry of the matter is to figure out what each thing means accurately. This is where our yeses and our noes come in.
When we’re saying No to something, often we’re telling ourselves a story about it. Usually, it’s a story of explanation or reasons or excuses, whichever word you like. The same thing is true when we’re saying Yes.
But what if we dropped the storylines?
What if we just said Yes when we mean Yes and No when we mean No and that’s all that’s required? No explanations, no reasons, no excuses.
Yes and No are often visceral experiences. Sometimes they arrive without words at all. What if we trusted ourselves enough just to let our yea be yea and our nay be nay. Period. Plain. Good enough.
I’m in the midst of an energetic experience right now that’s prompting a huge No from inside me. In fact, it’s a yelling, hollering, screeching No. I’ll admit it. I shrieked about it this morning. Is this sort of a No any more effective than a plain, quiet, heartfelt No? Not really. In fact, the kind of No I yowled this morning tends to create even more No and more yowling, and not just on my side of equation.
I didn’t follow the Rabbi’s advice.
What makes the difference between a yelling No and a quiet No?
It’s taken me a long time to figure this out, Beloved. The difference is that when I speak, not shriek, a quiet No, I’m taking care of myself. I’ve held still, tuned in, gotten clear, and then spoken authoritatively from the whole of my authentic self.
When I have to scream a No, I’m not taking care of the whole of me. I’m taking care of some yammering part of me that will not shut up till I yell. That part is actually trying to get my attention, not the attention of the person I’m yelling at.
The second half of the King James version of that verse in the Christian Scriptures is: “for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.” I wouldn’t go so far as evil, but I will gladly go so far as to say that a small part of me that needs healing attention from me isn’t the whole of my soul by any means.
I’d rather speak from the whole of my soul or my spirit than from anywhere else inside me, wouldn’t you?
The next time some part of you wants to shriek, wait. Get still. Ask where the Yes is under the No. [After I screamed, I did just that, and the whole matter opened up.] Then you have a choice. You can, as Abraham says, speak your Yes and bring what you want into your life, or speak your No and bring what you don’t want into your life.
Giving your Yes and your No meaning is part of what creates the fabric of life here on earth.
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