A woman client of mine was at her wits’ end with her Type-A, CEO husband who treated her like a minion and not a beloved. She decided to bring him to see me as a last ditch effort to get him to hear what she needed.
They arrived. She sat gracefully, and quietly. Her husband had his phone in his hand punching “buttons” and cybermuttering. His legs were crossed; foot jouncing. Finally, he looked up and, clearly annoyed at having his business day preempted, spat out, “So you’re the spiritual lady, right? Can you tell me about your spiritual path in one sentence or less?”
I gazed at him from my big green eyes, giggling inside. Then I spoke, “Yes.” I stopped.
He waited. I could see him wanting to snap his fingers at me, and then he did! “Yes, what?” came back over the net—even more irked.
His wife burst out laughing. He looked confused.
“Do you want me to explain it?” I asked.
“Okay,” I said. “My spiritual path is to say yes to whatever is happening.”
“Like what?” The belligerence was crystal clear.
“Like, yes, there is a man in my office behaving like an ass and being very rude to me about my spiritual path.”
His wife was wiping her eyes she was laughing so hard.
Truthfully, my last line was like the punchline of a joke. There was a nano-pause, then he got it, relaxed, showed up for the session, and saved their marriage.
The point is: this is the power of yes. No matter what is coming toward me or anyone.
For such a simple word, it can be said and used in all sorts of ways. Another client sent this to me during this rough time in my own life. Here’s another kind of yes entirely, and it works just as well.
Deep down in your soul, there’s a Yes.
She may not jump with excitement.
She may be quiet, steady, and clear.
She may have no pom poms.
She may be timid.
She may not say “Hell Yes!”
She may just say “Yes.”
Even her quiet Yes counts.
Ask her, then listen.
She’s the only one who knows.